The Mum network

Something that doesn’t get praised enough is the Mum network. A group of other Mums, who just support other Mums when they need it. I am very lucky to have one of my best friends live round the corner who also has a little boy. I swear I couldn’t do this journey of motherhood without her. She’s always there if I need to air any frustration, if I’ve had a bad night with Ivy, if I’m upset about anything. She’s so thoughtful, bringing me lunch if she knows I’ve had a tough week and she knows I can’t get out of the house easily as Ivy is having a rough day.

Having Mum friends is so important because they just get it. They understand if you’re going to be late or you have to cancel your plans because your child isn’t playing ball or isn’t feeling well. There is no resentment there, no grudges, just support. It’s also so useful to have other people to speak to that can offer advice when you ask for it (and also just to offer a shoulder to cry on and not advice when you don’t need it). Also Mums who are just strangers too, you’d be surprised at how many people are willing to keep an eye on your child at a soft play if you need the toilet or need to get something! 

I think Mum networks can get a really bad rep, especially Facebook Mum groups which can be really toxic. But real life Mum friends are a god send. They can help create memories with your babies and they can connect with you on another level which people without babies can’t do. It’s refreshing! This one is for you, Justine.

Jess x